Thursday 28 November 2013
鬆散的積極
這幾個月大部分的時間媽媽都在做自己的事.這一年,尤其這幾個月..媽媽的積極被這兩年來的身心疲累擊碎了.
除了備餐(你的三餐、點心),稍微幫你洗澡上廁所的事,整理家(打掃清洗的事),抽個幾十分鐘陪你玩玩具、唱唱歌、哄你睡午覺、...其餘的時間媽媽都往自己興趣的事忙.媽媽最近有想要學的..學做麵包,學樂器,學畫嗎?...就有這樣的想法,還有想活動.
媽媽也想看書啊!媽媽卻沒好好的看完一本書.
這樣子,媽媽好像把牽你的手,鬆開了.有時,媽媽有捉住你的小手,不過媽媽卻又忘了些什麼重要的事,關於你的事.媽媽以前的積極不在,鬆散了.
這個時候,媽媽突然想把鬆散的積極,慢慢一點一點撿回來.
星期一我們跟Teacher Terri兩個小時多的面談, 媽媽件從Teacher Terri 手中拿了最後一份IEP 2014還有FS 的progress report.各方面還是有很大的進步的空間,也就是說有很大的Gap.
T.E.A.C.C.H. corner是Teacher Terri要媽媽在家set up 的角落.這個媽媽剛才上網遊覽有關得資料.還有GAP這個問題.. 自理技能、粗細動作技能、認知能力、社交能力、語言能力(這個最頭疼!)...要一個範本參考.
先放幾個網頁連接:-
How A Child Develops, by howkidsdevelop.com
Self Help Skills, at Parentingme.com
Monday 25 November 2013
等著...的時候
等著麵包發酵,然後送烤.(◕‿◕)
最近媽媽幾乎每個星期都會弄麵包、披薩.呵呵~複習-ing.媽媽都不買外面的麵包囉!省錢嗎? (ˇˍˇ)不怎麼省錢吧!自己弄麵包比較健康?(→_→)不怎麼健康吧!(Gluten,這東西不健康;麵包也算是processed food)啊~不管啦!媽媽就是愛吃嘛!比起外面賣的,自己動手做,應該會比較好吧!至少可以少糖,沒添加劑...
好啦,第1盤面包送烤.現在時間是12.23a.m.
等著烘培好...還有第2盤.
剛過的週日早上,你清晨5點就醒,然後過來媽媽房間,還搬來兩個大枕頭--爸爸的枕頭也給你搬來.(你的枕頭WIP:work in progress,讓外婆給你整修.媽媽的枕頭這個星期就借你用)塞給媽媽一個枕頭,你一個.你好乖喔!♡（*'∀`*）人（*'∀`*）♡ 哈哈!睡在隔壁房的爸爸沒有枕頭.
不過,你倒也沒睡.只是躺在媽媽身邊.媽媽給你這麼一弄,也睡不著.早上六點就起身弄你的早餐、午餐、晚餐,之後我們便出門用早餐.去了一趟公園走了一圈才去外婆家. 媽媽有小睡一下下,不過你在外婆家還滿精神.吃過午餐,爸爸媽媽就帶你回家囉,今天沒有在外婆家待到晚上,因為要去購物中心買些東西.你上車就睡著.
今天媽媽弄披薩當晚餐,昨晚弄披薩,還有剩一個餅皮.你就跟平常一樣吃菜喝湯.今天很早吃晚餐喔,媽媽知道你今天早醒,又沒怎麼睡好午覺.晚上應該會早睡.剛才9點媽媽陪你上床,哼歌哄你睡,很快你就睡著.一整天下來,你累了吧!
你睡覺了,媽媽開始弄麵包囉!爸爸說要香蕉麵包.香蕉蛋糕媽媽有弄過,香蕉麵包第1次也.上網參考食譜--Dairy free, Egg free (家裡剛剛好沒蛋).參考這網頁: Go Dairy Free-Double-the-Cinnamon Rolls. 媽媽做的是Banana Walnut buns.媽媽參考食譜,自調材料.呵呵~(^_-)
喔~第1盤麵包烤好囉!現在時間是12.59a.m.媽媽剛才7點多的時候在沙發又打瞌睡片刻,現在精神得很.
等著第2盤麵包烤好之時...喔麵包的香味.現在1.16a.m.試吃一個,原本想吃一點點.(#￣▽￣#)
熱烘烘麵包,鬆軟,不甜.剛好合我口味,滿足! (￣▽￣)~*
明天早上跟Teacher Terri有約.媽媽這個時候還在吃宵夜.睡不著~ 等睡蟲來找媽媽囉! ╮(╯◇╰)╭
最近媽媽幾乎每個星期都會弄麵包、披薩.呵呵~複習-ing.媽媽都不買外面的麵包囉!省錢嗎? (ˇˍˇ)不怎麼省錢吧!自己弄麵包比較健康?(→_→)不怎麼健康吧!(Gluten,這東西不健康;麵包也算是processed food)啊~不管啦!媽媽就是愛吃嘛!比起外面賣的,自己動手做,應該會比較好吧!至少可以少糖,沒添加劑...
好啦,第1盤面包送烤.現在時間是12.23a.m.
等著烘培好...還有第2盤.
剛過的週日早上,你清晨5點就醒,然後過來媽媽房間,還搬來兩個大枕頭--爸爸的枕頭也給你搬來.(你的枕頭WIP:work in progress,讓外婆給你整修.媽媽的枕頭這個星期就借你用)塞給媽媽一個枕頭,你一個.你好乖喔!♡（*'∀`*）人（*'∀`*）♡ 哈哈!睡在隔壁房的爸爸沒有枕頭.
不過,你倒也沒睡.只是躺在媽媽身邊.媽媽給你這麼一弄,也睡不著.早上六點就起身弄你的早餐、午餐、晚餐,之後我們便出門用早餐.去了一趟公園走了一圈才去外婆家. 媽媽有小睡一下下,不過你在外婆家還滿精神.吃過午餐,爸爸媽媽就帶你回家囉,今天沒有在外婆家待到晚上,因為要去購物中心買些東西.你上車就睡著.
今天媽媽弄披薩當晚餐,昨晚弄披薩,還有剩一個餅皮.你就跟平常一樣吃菜喝湯.今天很早吃晚餐喔,媽媽知道你今天早醒,又沒怎麼睡好午覺.晚上應該會早睡.剛才9點媽媽陪你上床,哼歌哄你睡,很快你就睡著.一整天下來,你累了吧!
你睡覺了,媽媽開始弄麵包囉!爸爸說要香蕉麵包.香蕉蛋糕媽媽有弄過,香蕉麵包第1次也.上網參考食譜--Dairy free, Egg free (家裡剛剛好沒蛋).參考這網頁: Go Dairy Free-Double-the-Cinnamon Rolls. 媽媽做的是Banana Walnut buns.媽媽參考食譜,自調材料.呵呵~(^_-)
喔~第1盤麵包烤好囉!現在時間是12.59a.m.媽媽剛才7點多的時候在沙發又打瞌睡片刻,現在精神得很.
等著第2盤麵包烤好之時...喔麵包的香味.現在1.16a.m.試吃一個,原本想吃一點點.(#￣▽￣#)
熱烘烘麵包,鬆軟,不甜.剛好合我口味,滿足! (￣▽￣)~*
明天早上跟Teacher Terri有約.媽媽這個時候還在吃宵夜.睡不著~ 等睡蟲來找媽媽囉! ╮(╯◇╰)╭
Friday 22 November 2013
山不轉路轉，路不轉人轉，人不轉心轉。
看到FB 牆上,友人分享這麼一句"山不轉路轉。"
媽媽涉世尚淺,不能大說道理,不過"經一事,長一智"嘛.你的事,讓媽媽成長.媽媽當初根本沒想過會這麼生活下去,這不是媽媽原本想像的生活歷程.沒關係,媽媽不能改變什麼,不過可以改變自己.這是媽媽在成長中學習到的「知」.知道可以這麼做.
的確,不如意之時,媽媽很想逃離,還是想改變身邊的人、事、物,把自己搞得很疲憊.到後來根本什麼也沒有改變,不如改變心態.「韌性」非「任性」.媽媽怨過、氣過、無奈過,不過日子還是要好好過.何必執著.偶而發發牢騷,會好過些,不壞!
"與其改變環境,不如改變自己(心態)."這是媽媽這兩年來,一直說服自己,一直教育自己,一直提醒自己的一句話.
最近外婆說起家裡的事.媽媽的老哥,變了嗎?
媽媽好久好久沒有好好跟你的舅舅聊聊.
倒是想起了這件事,媽媽說以上的事.媽媽倒想問問媽媽的老哥,"你明白嗎?"
【經典札記】山不轉，水轉；境不轉，心轉
從前有位先知，他對民眾說：「我能把前面的那座大山叫過來，你們相信不相信？」
眾人都搖頭說：「那是不可能的。」
先知說：「好，你們看著，我現在要叫大山過來。」
大眾一片鴉雀無聲，睜大眼睛，等待著先知把大山叫過來。
「大山過來！」先知大聲地對著前面的大山喊話。但大山似乎無動於衷，大眾也面面相覷。
先知沒有氣餒，再一次地喊叫：「大山，你給我過來！」大山還是如如不動。群眾已經有人開始竊竊私語了，而先知仍然信心十足，並對大眾說：「我喊第三次，它一定過來。」
「大山，乖乖給我過來！」大山還是沒有過來。群眾一片嘩然，紛紛對先知給予無情的冷嘲與熱罵。
但是，先知還是面帶微笑，緩緩地對大眾說：「好，大山既然不過來，那就我過去！」於是他昂首闊步，朝大山走過去。
這個故事給我們的啟示就是：「山不轉人轉」啊！就是「環境不改變，我們改變」啊！事實上，環境從來不會適應我們，是我們要去適應環境，去將就環境。這就是先知所說的：「山不過來，我過去」的道理。
道理就是這麼簡單。但愈是簡單的道理，愈是不容易弄明白。在我們的現實生活中，這樣簡單的道理，往往被我們的執著蒙蔽，不僅看不清楚道理，反而牛角尖愈鑽愈深，最終把自己逼入了死胡同而無法自救。
所謂「窮則變，變則通，通則順，順則達。」這是古人的智慧，它教我們：做人處事要知所權變。只要懂得權變，換個角度思考，窮鄉絕徑，也會看到無數的 桃花源。因為看問題的角度變了，思惟的方向也隨著改變，或許因此就能感悟到世界仍然無限寬廣，「剪不斷，理還亂」的糾結問題，也就豁然而開，迎刃而解了。
西方諺語說「條條大路通羅馬」。此路不通，自有其他路可通，何必執著一條道路。但人生道路多歧途，一不小心就會走入死巷絕路，如果我們能夠通權達變，轉個彎，換個方向，就會發現條條道路都能通往羅馬。
古人說：「天無絕人之路。」西方哲人也說：「當上帝關上一扇門的時候，他會為你打開許多窗。」意思就是說人生沒有過不去的苦。當苦難來臨時，只要我 們不斷提醒自己：「別擔心，一切都會好轉起來。」只要我們不斷用正面思惟的方式，鼓勵自己；不斷用樂觀開朗的心念對自己信心喊話，昏暗的心靈，就會有許多 窗戶為它打開，陽光穿透窗戶，照破無明，我們也可以透過心窗，發現窗外其實仍然春光明媚，人生道路仍然一片坦途。
生命得來不易，需要諸多殊勝因緣聚集才能成就。當然，在生命的成長過程中，難免會遭遇許多挫折與磨難；許多怨恨與煩憂；許多的風雨與幽暗，沒有苦 難，就沒有喜樂；沒有幽暗，就沒有光明；不經過逆境的考驗，就不知道順境的可貴。所以苦樂、明暗、順逆都是一體的兩面，轉一個心念，換一個方向，苦即是 樂，明即是暗，逆即是順，「心、佛、眾生」三無差別，情境並沒有改變，改變的是我們的心境啊！「一切唯心造」這是佛陀的教法。西方聖哲也說：「天堂的國度 已經在大地展開，只是人們看不到。」為什麼人們看不到，因為我們的心窗沒有打開，因為我們有諸多無明執著，把自己囚禁在幽暗的地獄，所以看不到大地的天 堂。
最近媒體報導自殺新聞層出不窮，這是社會的病態與隱憂，也是對生命意義的扭曲與誤解。「人生難得今已得」，「一枝草，一點露」，生命的存在總有它的 道理。或許有人會說：「誰不愛惜自己的生命，如果不是痛苦到不想活的地步，誰願意自我了斷？」這話乍聽之下，鏗鏘有力，其實經不起仔細思慮與檢驗。痛苦只 是一種感受，當我們遇到痛苦或感受到痛苦，我們可以有兩種選擇：一種是將痛苦吸收進入內心，讓心靈被痛苦緊緊抓住，整天煩躁不安；一種是強化自己的心念， 將開朗的、正向的、快樂的與愛的正思惟聚焦在一起，並將它們釋放出去，用快樂與愛去擁抱痛苦，療癒痛苦，將痛苦轉化成一股向善、向上發展的能量。
證嚴上人曾經說過：「生命有無限的潛能；人生有無限的可能。」所謂生命的潛「能」與人生的可「能」，就是一種生機勃勃的正向能量。這種能量來自於正 思惟的修煉。「感恩、尊重、愛」都是無量無邊的正向思惟，它可以為我們帶來無量無邊的正向生命能量。負面思惟的本質是毀滅性的，它會減弱我們的正向能量。 貪、瞋、癡、慢、疑、嫉等所引發的一切怨恨煩憂，都是永不停息削弱生命能量的負面思惟，「自殺」就是生存意志能量徹底瓦解的後果。
「憂鬱」像一場瘟疫，在全球各地肆虐。憤世嫉俗的生活態度，也正在世界各國蔓延，這就是負面思惟的腐蝕性在作祟，它像無聲無息的病毒，不斷傳染擴散。所謂「憂鬱症」正是負面思惟病毒感染後的病兆，也是自殺率不斷攀高的禍首元凶。
生理因素引起的憂鬱症，需要靠醫藥治；心理情緒引起的憂鬱症，需要靠心藥醫。「心藥」何處覓？無他，修煉正向思惟即是。心存「感恩、尊重、愛」就是修煉正思惟的葵花寶典，也只有依靠正思惟的修煉，才能增強生命的正向能量，才能破解憂鬱病毒的蔓延。
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」的時候，卻不知道可以「心轉」呢！
" One of the happiest moments ever is when you feel the courage to let go of what you can't change. -Robert Tew."
" One of the happiest moments ever is when you feel the courage to let go of what you can't change. -Robert Tew."
Tuesday 19 November 2013
茫然
『茫然.』, 那天見到BC跟他說,最近幾個月我都處在茫然狀態.
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這個月寶貝生病了兩回合.這幾天你咳嗽、流鼻涕,原本好像快好了.可是你又好像變得有點嚴重.有三個月你都長得好好的,沒生病,媽媽很開心.不過,這個月你就病了兩次.媽媽應該要擔心嗎?
星期六是你畢業了. 從Intervention Centre畢業了.兩年...你在那兒上課兩年了.畢業典禮,媽媽難忘的是看著你第1次上台表演,表演的結果怎樣不怎麼記得.當天你踩空,從舞台跌下,跌在舞台跟牆面之間的縫.(gap).媽媽當時是愣了.沖上舞台把你拉起來.還好你沒大礙.不過臉有點紅腫,下巴有撞傷.冰敷後,臉沒事了.下巴有瘀傷.回家後,媽媽檢查爸爸錄下的影片,媽媽看回你當時發生事故的一剎那.心會痛,好痛!
畢業後,你又怎樣?最近幾個月你開開心心去中心上課,然後畢業後,繼續找類似的中心?找得著嗎?茫然若失~
今天媽媽上最後一堂課.<Hanen Program>.上完課,Teacher Terri眼眶濕濕的.Loh也是眼眶濕濕的給我們這些媽媽一個擁抱.媽媽心卻有點酸酸的.一班慈愛的老師們,讓媽媽感動也讓媽媽心疼.腦海想很多的事.你以後會怎樣呢?
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這個月寶貝生病了兩回合.這幾天你咳嗽、流鼻涕,原本好像快好了.可是你又好像變得有點嚴重.有三個月你都長得好好的,沒生病,媽媽很開心.不過,這個月你就病了兩次.媽媽應該要擔心嗎?
星期六是你畢業了. 從Intervention Centre畢業了.兩年...你在那兒上課兩年了.畢業典禮,媽媽難忘的是看著你第1次上台表演,表演的結果怎樣不怎麼記得.當天你踩空,從舞台跌下,跌在舞台跟牆面之間的縫.(gap).媽媽當時是愣了.沖上舞台把你拉起來.還好你沒大礙.不過臉有點紅腫,下巴有撞傷.冰敷後,臉沒事了.下巴有瘀傷.回家後,媽媽檢查爸爸錄下的影片,媽媽看回你當時發生事故的一剎那.心會痛,好痛!
畢業後,你又怎樣?最近幾個月你開開心心去中心上課,然後畢業後,繼續找類似的中心?找得著嗎?茫然若失~
今天媽媽上最後一堂課.<Hanen Program>.上完課,Teacher Terri眼眶濕濕的.Loh也是眼眶濕濕的給我們這些媽媽一個擁抱.媽媽心卻有點酸酸的.一班慈愛的老師們,讓媽媽感動也讓媽媽心疼.腦海想很多的事.你以後會怎樣呢?
Friday 15 November 2013
Barking Cough
你再次被咳嗽病毒攻陷!!
昨天去了一趟GH,回來就有聽到你幾聲咳.然後清晨4點多,你過來媽媽房間,擠跟媽媽一起睡.咳、咳、咳...吼~怎麼你又咳嗽啦!
蒜頭水侍候也給了Virastop.
昨天去了一趟GH,回來就有聽到你幾聲咳.然後清晨4點多,你過來媽媽房間,擠跟媽媽一起睡.咳、咳、咳...吼~怎麼你又咳嗽啦!
蒜頭水侍候也給了Virastop.
Tuesday 12 November 2013
Monday 11 November 2013
Auditory Processing Problem
這個問題困擾媽媽很久.媽媽一直想不到有什麼方法,也找不到誰(專業)、怎麼樣、...才能解決你這個問題.
各種讓你說話的方法,媽媽都有試著去做.媽媽挫敗、媽媽失落、然後媽媽也洩氣.
沉澱了好些時候,似乎媽媽已經不再為說不說話而著急、煩惱、...媽媽想著其他生活上的技能更重要吧!媽媽就在這方面跟你一起學習著成長.最近媽媽看到了你在生活自理上應該算失及格過關了. 那麼溝通呢?
媽媽回到怎麼讓你開口說話、怎麼讓你好好說話這件事.
Auditory Processing Problem,這是媽媽認為目前是你最大的問題.
突然想到上網搜尋有沒有如何幫助類似的個案.媽媽找到了這個.一個APD媽媽的分享.
全文在這: Helping Children with Auditory Processing Disorder, by Bonzlee
Accommodations at home are similar to school
各種讓你說話的方法,媽媽都有試著去做.媽媽挫敗、媽媽失落、然後媽媽也洩氣.
沉澱了好些時候,似乎媽媽已經不再為說不說話而著急、煩惱、...媽媽想著其他生活上的技能更重要吧!媽媽就在這方面跟你一起學習著成長.最近媽媽看到了你在生活自理上應該算失及格過關了. 那麼溝通呢?
媽媽回到怎麼讓你開口說話、怎麼讓你好好說話這件事.
Auditory Processing Problem,這是媽媽認為目前是你最大的問題.
突然想到上網搜尋有沒有如何幫助類似的個案.媽媽找到了這個.一個APD媽媽的分享.
全文在這: Helping Children with Auditory Processing Disorder, by Bonzlee
抽了這一段落,媽媽要細讀
Accommodations at home are similar to school
1. Reduce Background Noise
If you are trying to have a conversation with your child, quiet is the best way to do this. If you are unable to have quiet environment, then understand that the child may not be able to hear what you have said. Being patient, and even using sign language, will assist in communication. This is particular true in situations like parties, shopping malls or places where there are multiple noises occurring at once. Also, turning off the TV while talking is a must for kids with APD.
2. Consider your distance
How far away you are makes a huge difference in the ability to hear. Being within 3 feet helps defer extraneous noise. Don't shout information or request across the room, and definitely don't shout them from another room. Again, if your child doesn't do what you ask, remember there is a good change he did not understand what you said.
3. Obtain visual attention
This one helps my son so much. I get eye contact from him by tapping him on the shoulder and asking him to look at me. This really improves our communication. I believe he may have learned to read lips a bit, and so he uses that when looking at my face. Note that looking at lips instead of the face is a symptom of autism, which is probably why my son was sometimes considered to be autistic.
4. Slow down speech
This doesn't mean super slow. It just means to talk at a consistent pace and pause between ideas.
5. Make the child responsible for understanding
Ask your child to repeat back what you said so you can confirm he understood you correctly. So often we just assume the child got it, and you would be surprised how often he mishears things.
6. Create a homework space
Auditory distractions are so huge for kids with APD. Homework is very difficult if there are even small noises like a fan or lawnmower outside. Consider this when creating your child's homework space. If there are noisy siblings, keep them in other areas of the house, or arrange for them to participate in activities outside the house. Most importantly, your child may need to do homework in several small 5-10 minutes sessions because the energy required to focus is intense. Give your child leeway and don't expect them to sit for 30-60 minutes if they are really struggling with it.
7. Think before criticizing
When your child does not respond, or the response is not what you wanted, please remember that it's highly likely your child did not hear you correctly. Before getting angry and punishing, remember this, and try to clarify instructions before jumping to conclusions.
8. Simplify requests
Break multi-step directions into one or two parts before continuing on to the next piece. Children with APD need time to take in and process what is said, and often exhibit short-term memory issues. A child with APD will struggle to process was you said 10 seconds ago and isn't always able to continue listening and taken in more information. Space out directions for better understanding and comprehension.
9. Consider sensory issues
Many children with APD have additional sensory issues that complicate that cause them to get overstimulated. In this state their APD is aggravating and listening and focusing are even harder. Be aware of this at home. Our son cannot deal with a lot of loud noise. If his brother is being too rambunctious, he will seek out the quiet of his room. While we live in a small house, we made a point of making a space that was his so he could retreat to it whenever he felt overwhelmed.
10. The end of the day will be the hardest
After a full day of focused processing your child is going to be very tired. Take this into consideration when planning evening activities. Don't expect your child to be able to do homework late, and be accommodating if he would rather just spend some time alone or doing quiet activities.
11. Create a signal for important information
All children have some degree of challenges when it comes to paying attention and listening. The child with APD has this even more so. An effective tool is to have some sort of signal that indicates to the child that you have to talk to him about something important. For example, perhaps you have to go over the morning schedule because something about it has changed. Consider the following signals that can indicate to your child that they should listen, then repeat back what you said so you know they have understood:
Sometimes the combination of sounds in a sentence are difficult to process for an APD child. If they cannot understand what you are saying, try using different words. For Example, if the child does not understand when you say, "Please brush your teeth and wash up so you can get ready for bed." then try rephrasing it. Instead maybe say, "It's time for bed. Use your toothbrush and clean your hands and face." Simple rephrasing may eliminate specific phonic sounds the child has greater difficult with.
If you are trying to have a conversation with your child, quiet is the best way to do this. If you are unable to have quiet environment, then understand that the child may not be able to hear what you have said. Being patient, and even using sign language, will assist in communication. This is particular true in situations like parties, shopping malls or places where there are multiple noises occurring at once. Also, turning off the TV while talking is a must for kids with APD.
2. Consider your distance
How far away you are makes a huge difference in the ability to hear. Being within 3 feet helps defer extraneous noise. Don't shout information or request across the room, and definitely don't shout them from another room. Again, if your child doesn't do what you ask, remember there is a good change he did not understand what you said.
3. Obtain visual attention
This one helps my son so much. I get eye contact from him by tapping him on the shoulder and asking him to look at me. This really improves our communication. I believe he may have learned to read lips a bit, and so he uses that when looking at my face. Note that looking at lips instead of the face is a symptom of autism, which is probably why my son was sometimes considered to be autistic.
4. Slow down speech
This doesn't mean super slow. It just means to talk at a consistent pace and pause between ideas.
5. Make the child responsible for understanding
Ask your child to repeat back what you said so you can confirm he understood you correctly. So often we just assume the child got it, and you would be surprised how often he mishears things.
6. Create a homework space
Auditory distractions are so huge for kids with APD. Homework is very difficult if there are even small noises like a fan or lawnmower outside. Consider this when creating your child's homework space. If there are noisy siblings, keep them in other areas of the house, or arrange for them to participate in activities outside the house. Most importantly, your child may need to do homework in several small 5-10 minutes sessions because the energy required to focus is intense. Give your child leeway and don't expect them to sit for 30-60 minutes if they are really struggling with it.
7. Think before criticizing
When your child does not respond, or the response is not what you wanted, please remember that it's highly likely your child did not hear you correctly. Before getting angry and punishing, remember this, and try to clarify instructions before jumping to conclusions.
8. Simplify requests
Break multi-step directions into one or two parts before continuing on to the next piece. Children with APD need time to take in and process what is said, and often exhibit short-term memory issues. A child with APD will struggle to process was you said 10 seconds ago and isn't always able to continue listening and taken in more information. Space out directions for better understanding and comprehension.
9. Consider sensory issues
Many children with APD have additional sensory issues that complicate that cause them to get overstimulated. In this state their APD is aggravating and listening and focusing are even harder. Be aware of this at home. Our son cannot deal with a lot of loud noise. If his brother is being too rambunctious, he will seek out the quiet of his room. While we live in a small house, we made a point of making a space that was his so he could retreat to it whenever he felt overwhelmed.
10. The end of the day will be the hardest
After a full day of focused processing your child is going to be very tired. Take this into consideration when planning evening activities. Don't expect your child to be able to do homework late, and be accommodating if he would rather just spend some time alone or doing quiet activities.
11. Create a signal for important information
All children have some degree of challenges when it comes to paying attention and listening. The child with APD has this even more so. An effective tool is to have some sort of signal that indicates to the child that you have to talk to him about something important. For example, perhaps you have to go over the morning schedule because something about it has changed. Consider the following signals that can indicate to your child that they should listen, then repeat back what you said so you know they have understood:
- The sign for "stop".
- Laying a hand on his shoulder
- Count 1, 2, 3 with your fingers.
- Ask your child what signal he/she would like to use
Sometimes the combination of sounds in a sentence are difficult to process for an APD child. If they cannot understand what you are saying, try using different words. For Example, if the child does not understand when you say, "Please brush your teeth and wash up so you can get ready for bed." then try rephrasing it. Instead maybe say, "It's time for bed. Use your toothbrush and clean your hands and face." Simple rephrasing may eliminate specific phonic sounds the child has greater difficult with.
Friday 8 November 2013
最近媽媽愛看食譜: 健康沙拉、Gluten Pumpkin Bun
昨天,媽媽給自己弄salad當午餐.Dressing是看網上,忘了是那個網頁,滿健康的dressing,就:Lemon, Extra virgin olive oil, Sea salt, Honey.媽媽弄的Salad: Head lettuce, Carrot, Cherry tomato, Zucchini, Macadamia. 媽媽還想這樣吃,能飽嗎?吃了這麼一碗,還真的挺飽的.(◕‿◕)
媽媽常常看到朋友在FB貼上自製各式各樣的麵包,好好吃的樣子,媽媽好愛喔.媽媽是很愛吃麵包,不過媽媽卻不曾自己做麵包.有!有弄過一次,那種調好的麵包粉,結果,還是不好吃那種.
第1次烘培,弄的不是麵包,是你吃的米包. (￣.￣)+ …
上個星期媽媽成功弄了披薩.這幾天晚上,媽媽掛在網上,找了簡易弄的小麵包.還要那種milk free的.今午趁你睡午覺時,媽媽開始備料什麼的.然後就把材料倒進麵包機(我們家的烤箱是多功能那種).你醒了!麵包在攪拌之時,媽媽弄蔬果給你當點心:奇異果、玻璃生菜、小番茄、巴西豆.你還是不喜歡吃小番茄.硬塞給媽媽吃.(╯﹏╰)
從4點多弄倒5點多,麵包團才弄好.好囉!做造型...嘿嘿!(￣ー￣)
爸爸放工回來,看到.◎_◎
"Croissant 嗎???"
啊哈哈~就想說試著弄弄看.媽媽上網看到人家弄的bun shaping,好好玩!
好啦!媽媽的南瓜麵包,完成囉!不錯看,是不是?!只是淡口味!呵呵~就不甜也不鹹.健康麵包嘛!不過不是Gluten free喔!所以寶貝不能吃.
第1次烘培,弄的不是麵包,是你吃的米包. (￣.￣)+ …
上個星期媽媽成功弄了披薩.這幾天晚上,媽媽掛在網上,找了簡易弄的小麵包.還要那種milk free的.今午趁你睡午覺時,媽媽開始備料什麼的.然後就把材料倒進麵包機(我們家的烤箱是多功能那種).你醒了!麵包在攪拌之時,媽媽弄蔬果給你當點心:奇異果、玻璃生菜、小番茄、巴西豆.你還是不喜歡吃小番茄.硬塞給媽媽吃.(╯﹏╰)
從4點多弄倒5點多,麵包團才弄好.好囉!做造型...嘿嘿!(￣ー￣)
"Croissant 嗎???"
啊哈哈~就想說試著弄弄看.媽媽上網看到人家弄的bun shaping,好好玩!
好啦!媽媽的南瓜麵包,完成囉!不錯看,是不是?!只是淡口味!呵呵~就不甜也不鹹.健康麵包嘛!不過不是Gluten free喔!所以寶貝不能吃.
Wednesday 6 November 2013
Garlic, 蒜頭
今天媽媽在備晚餐時,腦子閃過這個關於蒜頭的事.
上個星期一吧!媽媽跟Aunt Lilian, Irene, PH and Sheet, 午後小聚餐.然後聊起了蒜頭煮食.Irene跟媽媽分享如何保存蒜頭,還有增強蒜頭酵素作用.她說,把蒜頭切碎,加油,裝罐,可以保存很久,而且酵素成份很高.--大概是這樣.
媽媽有用蒜頭炒菜,煮湯.生吃嗎?感冒的時候吧!弄碎後沖水給你喝.
到底怎麼用最有效呢?
過程就在於Alliin-->Allicin.
然後問題在於即食還是要待食?煮過或生吃?
媽媽還在研讀-ing.
這篇文獻討論得很仔細, WHfoods.org
Reference:
Wikipedia: Garlic
Worldhealth.net, Garlic (Allium sativum)
University Of Maryland Medical Center, Garlic
PubMed-NCBI, Effect of cooking on garlic (Allium sativum L.) antiplatelet activity and thiosulfinates content.
上個星期一吧!媽媽跟Aunt Lilian, Irene, PH and Sheet, 午後小聚餐.然後聊起了蒜頭煮食.Irene跟媽媽分享如何保存蒜頭,還有增強蒜頭酵素作用.她說,把蒜頭切碎,加油,裝罐,可以保存很久,而且酵素成份很高.--大概是這樣.
媽媽有用蒜頭炒菜,煮湯.生吃嗎?感冒的時候吧!弄碎後沖水給你喝.
到底怎麼用最有效呢?
過程就在於Alliin-->Allicin.
然後問題在於即食還是要待食?煮過或生吃?
媽媽還在研讀-ing.
這篇文獻討論得很仔細, WHfoods.org
What's New and Beneficial About Garlic
Reference:
Wikipedia: Garlic
Worldhealth.net, Garlic (Allium sativum)
University Of Maryland Medical Center, Garlic
PubMed-NCBI, Effect of cooking on garlic (Allium sativum L.) antiplatelet activity and thiosulfinates content.
Tuesday 5 November 2013
Chapped Lip
最近幾天,媽媽的唇又開始犯乾.
吼~怎麼會呢?媽媽天天有補充蔬果,而且最近媽媽還很故意吃得"健康些".氣候的問題嗎?還是媽媽又無意識地添唇咬唇? 缺乏維生素? 還是,...
不管啦!媽媽就是多補充水份.護唇膏(用那個"V"牌子)...雖然沒什麼有效.噢~想到那個"神油"也許有用.*@_@*就是那個囉!-->"椰油" 呵呵~昨天睡前有用了,今晚也塗了些.嗯~沒有惡化!白天,勤勞點,補護唇膏.
以前用了好幾個月時間才擺脫"裂唇"的苦惱!那時候怎麼好的?媽媽也忘了.那時候好像是兩三年前的事了.那時候媽媽用了好多牌子的護唇膏,試用了好多方法,唇乾裂的問題還是很讓人煩惱,後來的後來,...就好了.媽媽就是忘了怎麼好的.
Reference:
wikipedia, Cheilitis
吼~怎麼會呢?媽媽天天有補充蔬果,而且最近媽媽還很故意吃得"健康些".氣候的問題嗎?還是媽媽又無意識地添唇咬唇? 缺乏維生素? 還是,...
不管啦!媽媽就是多補充水份.護唇膏(用那個"V"牌子)...雖然沒什麼有效.噢~想到那個"神油"也許有用.*@_@*就是那個囉!-->"椰油" 呵呵~昨天睡前有用了,今晚也塗了些.嗯~沒有惡化!白天,勤勞點,補護唇膏.
以前用了好幾個月時間才擺脫"裂唇"的苦惱!那時候怎麼好的?媽媽也忘了.那時候好像是兩三年前的事了.那時候媽媽用了好多牌子的護唇膏,試用了好多方法,唇乾裂的問題還是很讓人煩惱,後來的後來,...就好了.媽媽就是忘了怎麼好的.
Reference:
wikipedia, Cheilitis
The Dr. Oz Show, The Many Hidden Causes of Chapped Lips,By Audrey Kunin, MD
Saturday 2 November 2013
媽媽第1次做Pizza
這個是跟著FB好料share share網友提供的食譜弄的.
媽媽記得外婆弄的披薩真得很隨意,而婆婆教媽媽弄的發酵法,倒是跟食譜一樣.
材料:
450g all purpose flour
1 tsp salt
1 TBsp oil
3/4 cup water
1/4 cup warm water
1 pack BRM yeast (7g, 8g as stated in recipe)
1 tsp sugar
1. warm water + yeast + sugar mixed, then rest 15mins
2. flour + salt + oil + mixture in step 1, knead 8-10mins, rest 45mins
(媽媽把材料全倒進breadmaker 弄好dough.呵呵~) 餅皮分成兩份,一份收冰箱
3.preheat oven 攝氏205度. 10-15mins.
4.add toppings, 再烘 10-15mins.
完成!
算簡單,不過餅皮媽媽弄太厚.還可以吃啦!吃很飽那種.v(￣︶￣)y
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